A couple of years ago I was cutting and dying my hair constantly. Well almost weekly. I knew how to do both myself so it was easy, and I was obviously never happy with how I looked or I wouldn’t have continued to change it up. Then one day, God spoke to me and basically said “I created you with the hair color you have and I don’t want you changing that”. I dyed my hair back to my natural color so the grow-out wouldn’t be an issue.
A few weeks later I heard God speak to me again, this time telling me to stop being vain and to let my hair grow. Let it be healthy the way he created me/it. With that I have stopped cutting and dying my hair and within the two years it has went from shoulder length, to the small of my back. It doesn’t really have a style but I am more than okay with that. I can wear it down or in a bun or ponytail and I have had a lot of fun with different long hair styles that are simple and don’t take time away from my family and best of all feeling guided by God.
Once my hair began to grow longer I no longer felt this need to wear low cut tops and it weighed on my heart pretty heavy to try and dress more modestly, placing scarves or layers to NOT show too much of my chest, wearing a LOT of skirts no shorter than my knees.
As a result of obeying God about my hair I was open to hearing Him speak about my clothing and how I was portraying myself as a woman and as a mother. I have prayed repentance for those times that I went to the kid’s schools with a shirt that would show a bra strap or dip too low.
The biggest lesson in all of this that I have learned so far is that I am actually MORE confident in being myself with my hair long and well-groomed with a simple and modest outfit on then I did when I was constantly changing my hair color and length and wearing clothing that would get me the wrong types of attention.
I always thought that when you like a part of your body you should show it off, but I have learned that the only one I should be aiming to please is God and that in making the conscious choice to be modest He will provide me with a husband who will respect me the way I now respect myself.
“Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.”
~1 Timothy 2:9-10~